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Life Defining Guitar Moments 3 Examples

Mar 01, 2025

Today I’m sharing three pivotal moments that completely transformed my approach to the guitar. These aren’t about nailing a tricky lick or a killer performance – they're deeper, philosophical shifts that have shaped my musical journey. Please watch/listen to the actual video for the full impact. The article here is just a brief summary, so feel free to skip it. 

Life Defining Guitar Moments 3 Examples

1. The Dissolving Dichotomy of "Right" and "Wrong"

During a lesson with Stephen Benson, a top NYC guitarist, I spent 30 minutes improvising with the "wrong" scale over a dominant 7th chord. Steve loved it! The lesson? Music is about feeling, not just theory. Your audience cares about the sound, not perfection. Plus, there's a world of possibilities over a dominant 7th chord.

2. Tom Quayle and the Unexpected Path:

Listening to Tom Quayle, I realized greatness can come from "failing" to achieve your original vision. Tom wanted to be a straight-ahead jazz player, but his unique style emerged when he couldn’t fit that mold. It’s a powerful reminder that your unique voice is valuable, even if it deviates from the plan.

3. The Steve Vai Strategy:

Instead of obsessing over weaknesses, Steve Vai advocates doubling down on your strengths. I’m great at legato, less so at economy picking. The lesson? Specialize! Focus on what you excel at and become a master. Like a specialist doctor, guitarists known for one incredible skill leave a lasting impact.

In summary:

  • Good music trumps perfect theory.
  • Embrace your unique path, even if it's unexpected.
  • Master your strengths, not your weaknesses.

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